hello, I am a new member here.
All my life I have been taught that abusing your children is okay and that our culture supports it.
Now dont get me wrong, I am all for disciplining children the proper way. A slap on the hand or butt is sometimes necessary, along with reprimanding and making a child think about their actions.
But what I am asking about is extreme-- very extreme. I am almost 22 years old and my parents had continued to abuse me. When I say abuse, it involves using methods which the police would consider to be assault-- using knives, belts, strangulation and even trying to ram my body against a wall or a door.
My entire family has told me that this is called discipline and they are doing it for my own good. But why did I always end up with welts, bruises and even scars? Is this what proper Indian culture and parenting does?
I moved out because I couldnt deal with this anymore. I know that leaving your parents home is disgraceful, but in this situation I would much rather taken disgrace than fear for my life.
Am I mistaken? Should I go back to them? Am I violating our cultural standards?
All my life I have been taught that abusing your children is okay and that our culture supports it.
Now dont get me wrong, I am all for disciplining children the proper way. A slap on the hand or butt is sometimes necessary, along with reprimanding and making a child think about their actions.
But what I am asking about is extreme-- very extreme. I am almost 22 years old and my parents had continued to abuse me. When I say abuse, it involves using methods which the police would consider to be assault-- using knives, belts, strangulation and even trying to ram my body against a wall or a door.
My entire family has told me that this is called discipline and they are doing it for my own good. But why did I always end up with welts, bruises and even scars? Is this what proper Indian culture and parenting does?
I moved out because I couldnt deal with this anymore. I know that leaving your parents home is disgraceful, but in this situation I would much rather taken disgrace than fear for my life.
Am I mistaken? Should I go back to them? Am I violating our cultural standards?
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